Wellness Center presents Heart Hunt: Clue No. 2

As Valentine’s Day draws near, so too does finding the wooden heart in the Wellness Center’s Heart Hunt. As a fun activity promoting healthy relationships, a wooden heart is hidden somewhere on the UST campus. Capture the heart and win a nice prize.

Clue No. 2 (and a healthy relationship tip) is listed below.

Questions? E-mail the Wellness Center.

Clue No. 2
Tuesday, Feb. 12

Every relationship is special … even the relationship between teacher and student. A renovation could not break the special bond between this mentor and pupil. The heart can be found in the middle of this union.

Healthy Relationship Tip No. 2
So what’s healthy and what’s unhealthy? How do we make sure we get what we deserve in both friendships and romantic relationships? Well, it starts with four basic principles:

RESPECT. When two people are in a relationship, there should be mutual respect for each person as an individual, and for the joy that is created when they come together. A healthy partnership means learning about the other person and valuing what is important to him or her.

HONESTY. Most people would agree that honesty is crucial to any relationship. At the same time, true honesty about our thoughts and feelings about what we want to happen in the relationship, is a challenge to accomplish.

TRUST. Trust means you can count on each other and that the other person will be there for you. Trust doesn’t come easy, and for most people, needs to be earned over time.

COMMUNICATION. Communication is critical to the other three ingredients. It is how we show our respect, honesty, and trust. Listening to others and really "hearing them," so we respond and follow through on what they are requesting, is a sign of a strong relationship.

PAST CLUES

Clue No. 1
Monday, Feb. 11

Every healthy relationship must find a way to meet in the middle. The heart is neither north, south, east nor west.

Healthy Relationship Tip No. 1
Relationships can be challenging and confusing. So it is important to be clear on what you want and need.

Think of friends you have had. What qualities were most important to you? You might want a friend who you can trust with your most private thoughts and feelings or someone who is fun to be with. Maybe you want a friend who shares values that are important to you.

The qualities you think of will include the qualities to look for in any important relationship. These will probably be qualities that others will look for in you as well.

Source: Adapted from Getting What You Want From Relationships (available in the Wellness Center).