Outside consultant: Balance in the home office
Sunday, March 10, 2013
Question: My question is how do you stay focused while working from a home office? I try to balance work and family, but when I’m with my family, I feel like I should be working, and vice versa. It’s hard to get my family to understand that my office is my office, that they shouldn’t disturb me. I don’t interrupt my husband at work, but I don’t get the same respect at home.
Answer: The best answer to your question comes from Confucius: “Respect yourself and others will respect you.”
This can be difficult to hear, but your work is first with yourself, not your family. I don’t know you, but most women are socialized to care for others. Complex, ingrained patterns in our cultures keep that dynamic in place. As a result, you may feel shame or guilt when you spend time building something of your own.
Originally published: 03/10/2013, Star Tribune